Marriage seems to fall into the same category today as people's clothes, cars, appliances, phones, computers - really anything - if it doesn't make me feel good; if it isn't the latest and greatest; if it doesn't fit in with my life-style; just get a new one. Most of our counseling is not for serious problems; couples come for counseling because they have "grown apart," because of unmet needs, because the relationship just isn't working for them any longer. Western culture is now the culture of the disposable. If it just doesn't "do it" for us, get rid of it and find a replacement. The problem is that you don't just dispose of a marriage - the "two becoming one" means that there has been an indelible stamp of that other person on your life. Additionally, if there are children, you don't get rid of that person - they are in your life - for life!
Couples promise on the wedding day that they will remain in the marriage through the troubles, through the problems - no matter what - for life! My friend Pastor Diego did that. At his funeral, his wife, Mery, said, 'today, Diego fulfilled his vows. He loved me and took care of me until death parted us.' That, friends, is a testimony of a life long commitment. There are other inspiriational stories of that kind of commitment; click HERE for a downloadable document of "True Stories of Marital Commitment." Make that commitment now that you will love your spouse for better or worse until death do you part!
